3. Check Body Language:While reading another person’s body language, male or female, is NOT an exact science, there are definitely a few behaviors to look for that will signal that the person is not interested in engaging in conversation. Respect the girl’s right to be left alone. Is she facing away from you? Are her arms crossed? Is she listening to music, or reading a book? Is she frowning? Is she specifically looking away from you? While not perfect indicators, expressions and body language like this probably means leave her alone
[3] Body language is not everything. Girls are taught from childhood that they must be pleasant no matter what, apparently. If you are going to approach her, pay attention to how she reacts and what she says.
[4]4. Approach the girl you are interested in.Start with a simple ice-breaker. Perhaps you are reading the same book, or you noticed she was wearing a shirt that has a band you like. Perhaps the bus is late and you can commiserate with her. If she doesn’t seem interested in talking, leave her alone. There are numerous ways to tell: not making eye contact, monosyllabic answers, looking around for some way out of the conversation. If she is interested she will make that clear: eye contact, smiling, sometimes leaning closer. Once you’ve approached and established that she’s interested, proceed to having a conversation.
5. Have a conversation.This might flow naturally out of your ice-breaker comment, but if not there are several ways to have a conversation. Ask her if she made her earrings/dress/other cool item. You could even say something like “I couldn’t help but noticing how your dress matches your eyes. It’s a great color.” It lets her know that you think she’s attractive without dwelling on her looks. Like anyone else, girls like to be appreciated for more than just their appearance.
If you’re in a place like a bookstore or comic book store, ask her what her favorite book is. Be sure to listen when she speaks. You’ll find out more about her, have opportunities to further the conversation, and show her that you are interested in her as a person.
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